Wednesday, July 11, 2007

How to Move Past the Fears of Starting Up Your Business

by Susan L Reid


What's holding you back from staring up your small business?

Whatever the reason, you can bet that there is a fear-based belief running in the background that needs to be addressed.

This kind of fear-based belief I'm talking about is one that prevents you from doing what you want to do and sabotages you from having what you want to have. Often unconscious, these fear-based beliefs fall under three general categories:

* Belief in lack * Belief in not being good enough * Fear of the unknown

Belief in lack is the belief that there simply is not enough. There isn't enough time, money, and energy. Inherent in this way of thinking is the belief that someone or something other than you is in control.

The three main fears that arise from this belief system are:

1. Fear of not enough money Either to start a business or to see a profit from the business you start.

2. Fear of not enough time Either to devote to starting up a business or to running it.

3. Fear of lack of security Either of not having a regular, steady income, or of not having financial resources for the future.

Belief in not being good enough comes in a variety of disguises: low self worth, arrogance, lack of confidence, poor self-esteem, and manipulation. Inherent in this way of thinking is the belief that someone or something is better than you.

The three main fears that arise from this belief system are:

1. Fear of disapproval and rejection Usually coming from someone close to you whose opinion you value.

2. Fear of failure Usually coming from someone with the expectation that if you don't succeed immediately, you are a failure.

3. Fear of success Usually coming from an inner voice that says that there is something wrong with being happy, going after what you want, and making lots of money.

Fear of the great unknown is fear of anything that we don't think we have control over or that is out of our comfort zone. Inherent in this way of thinking is the belief that someone or something has power over you.

The three main fears that arise from this belief system are:

1. Fear of playing it large Either of being the center of attention or of becoming a role model for others.

2. Fear of discovery Either of what you don't know or what you do know.

3. Fear of commitment Either of starting up a small business, or sticking to goals that will ensure your success.

Taking Inspiration from Others

Taking inspiration from others is one of the best ways to move past your fears. There are millions of examples of people who have started up businesses despite being afraid. History books are filled with thousands of individuals who have overcome great personal and professional challenges in order to succeed. Rarely does a day go by when we aren't inspired by someone who has persevered regardless of the odds to recover from a debilitating illness, sail around the world, unite with a loved one, or start up a business. Here's what a few of them have said:

* Vincent Van Gogh, Dutch painter of the 19th century who pioneered expressionism and was fraught with his own personal and professional fears, said, "Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together."

* Wayne Dyer, internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development, despite growing up in orphanages and foster homes, says, "The more you see yourself as what you'd like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you'll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform your dream into your reality."

* Vietnamese Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hahn, now living in exile, tells us, "Awareness in the present is your point of power. The only place that you can do anything about anything."

* Business tycoon and American success story Donald Trump, who once faced bankruptcy, explains how he started out: "When I started out in business, I spent a great deal of time researching every detail that might be pertinent to the deal I was interested in making. I still do the same today."

* High school drop out and now personal and business success guru Brian Tracy says, "I found that every single successful person I've ever spoken to has had a turning point. The turning point was when they made a clear, specific, unequivocal decision that they were not going to live like this anymore; they were going to achieve success."

* Napoleon Hill, famous for his book Think and Grow Rich, who was born into poverty in a two-room cabin and whose mother died when he was 10 years-old tells us to "create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action."

Keep in mind that success isn't the absence of fear. Success is the courage of conviction that propels us beyond fear.

Are You Listening?

by Helaine Iris


Are You Listening? Helaine Iris © 2003

"At any moment, you have a choice, that either leads you closer to your spirit or further away from it." Thich Nhat Hahn

Last summer my husband and I went away for our anniversary. We went to the White Mountains of New Hampshire for some camping and hiking. Mind you, my husband has hiked the Appalachian Trail and his idea of a hike is far different than my idea of a hike.

He wanted to climb Moat Mountain, a two-mile climb with an elevation of 2800 feet. It was a ninety-degree day in August with about ninety percent humidity, otherwise a perfect day for a hike.

What the heck I thought. Not my idea of a walk in the park, yet I wanted to be with him. Part of my intention for our anniversary weekend was to do things he liked to do. I began to climb. Very soon into the hike it was clear that I was not having a good time. I was exhausted and it was dangerously hot. He kept asking me if I wanted to turn back and I stubbornly continued.

On and on I hiked. I told him he could go on ahead and I would take it slow. I crawled under bushes to catch any glimpse of shade I could find to catch my breath. I was determined to make it to the top to prove to him and myself I could do it. Big mistake. A quarter of a mile from the top my body would go no further. I limped my way down the mountain and wound up with heat stroke and spent the rest of our vacation recovering.

What this powerful experience taught me is to listen. Listen to my inner wisdom; listen to the messages of my body and pay attention to what's really happening. I knew there was no way I could make it up that mountain in ninety-degree heat and furthermore I really didn't want to. I wanted to prove something and I disregarded my own inner wisdom.

Have you ever wondered why you don't listen?

It is easy to get caught up in the frenzy and fullness of life and stop listening. How often do you push through a busy schedule, aware of the stress and ignore a message you get from you body? How many times have you heard the voice of your inner knowing clearly giving you a message that you don't stop and listen to?

Do you want to wait until you're dangerously close to an edge before you listen? Here are some suggestions to help you exercise listening to your inner wisdom.

1. Know yourself. What do you really want and need? Are you willing to stand up for your own life?

2. Practice. Listening is like a muscle that needs strengthening. You can listen with more than just your ears; you can listen with your heart as well. Slow down, close you eyes for a minute. What do you hear or feel?

3. Learn to trust your own inner voice. When you start trusting yourself you will experience more flow and fulfillment.

4. Watch for the confirmations life sends you. This will help to reinforce the value of listening and encourage you to keep sharpening the skill. It's also delightful to witness the amazing learning possible when you are listening.

When I don't listen it's usually because there's something I don't want to hear. That day on the mountain I needed to ask myself a hard question, "why was I willing to risk my health or life to prove to my husband that I could do the things he liked to do?" It was because I didn't want to feel left out. Yet, by NOT listening, I left myself out.

When I listen my life flows more easily. I am guided toward the things that work for me as well as for others. I'm more honest and I'm more me.

Now, when my husband asks me to hike with him, I am delighted to go or not, walk as far as I want and know we're both having a better time because we are both following our heart.

I'm listening now.

It's YOUR life…imagine the possibilities!

Spiritual Healing- Nothing Special

by Amy Biddle


Let's be honest. A lot of people think that spiritual healing is a little "woo-woo." Look at it logically, though, and I think you'll agree it's nothing out of the ordinary.

Health is your natural state of being. It's your default setting. As soon as you scrape your knee or cut your finger, you begin healing yourself. Your blood clots, while tenderness and swelling warn you to steer clear of the healing area. It's like a sign outside of a construction site, "Working - Do Not Enter."

Of course, there are often additional things you can do to facilitate healing. If a cut on your arm is very deep, you might bandage it or even sew the severed edges together, so that the healing cells can reach each other. You may apply an antibacterial to protect the area until the skin grows back to provide that protection. Whether you realize it or not, even in these everyday examples, you are cooperating with your spiritual healing.

Without the spirit that lives in you, as you, all the stitches and bandages would be completely pointless. Without consciousness, your skin would not know how to repair a cut, no matter how long you held it together.

Scientists now tell us what spiritual healers have known for a long time: There is no time. We've created the illusion of time to have a certain experience. You heal your leg simultaneous to breaking it: the healing only appears to take six weeks. The cast and ibuprofen and traction are all things we've created to help pass the illusion of time. And if you're tired of how you're passing the time in your own life, you can use spiritual healing to change that.

I'm not bashing "traditional" healing. I'm just saying you have a choice. Since we're here, having a time-bound experience, we don't need to turn our noses up at the "traditional" methods of healing. We just need to know them for what they are - props on the stage of life's play. By tapping into some resources from the field of "alternative" or spiritual healing , we can choose different props (hopefully less expensive or painful) or reduce the time we use our props. As our proficiency grows over weeks, months, or years, we can eliminate many of our props altogether!

We can also aid our body's natural/spiritual healing process by "getting out of the way." You may not realize there's anything spiritual about a good night's sleep and good food, but repeat after me, "Everything is spiritual!" As the saying goes, you are a spiritual being having a human (time-based) experience.

No less a teacher than Thich Nhat Hahn has said that rest is important for the healing of both mind and body. I believe that much of our discomfort during healing actually comes from our restless resistance to the healing process. We try to work or otherwise carry on, as if no healing were going on, when our body wants its maximum healing power.

Whenever we let go and get still, though, we can watch miracles of spiritual healing take place - in our bodies and in our lives.